Can different
parenting styles affect decision making when it comes to social pressure
Decision
making is a crucial tool that no one can avoid. From governments to families,
to individuals, each one of us do take decisions whether important or
insignificant. Does decision making depend on age? It seems our society accept
that decision depends on age. Although everybody can make and should be allowed
to make decisions, but at a certain age most adolescent are not trusted to make
very important decisions. The ability for one to make quick-concise decisions
especially when under pressure is very important. Unfortunately, most
adolescents are almost always under pressure from society to make decision
whether they have the ability to make the decision or not. This is clearly seen
when it comes to voting, alcohol, accommodation, just to mention a few. If age
is tied to when adolescents can make decisions, can they be trusted to make
very important decisions automatically when they get to that age. This is when
adults are to be involved in adolescent developing the skill of make decision
that will help rescue them from the pressure that comes the society.
According to
Brian C. Patridge, parents’ involvement in the decision making of adolescent is
based on the emotional involvement as well as the inability to see long term
consequences with the decision they make (Patridge, 2010). He states that the
burden that parents have as involving or making their children make better
decisions in the future but imitating their style of decision making also plays
a huge role on why parents are involved the decision making of adolescents
(Patridge,2010). This means parents are involved because they do believe
adolescents might not have yet developed ability to separate impulsivity.
Parents’
involvement in a decision making of adolescents comes with its own
controversies. Such as; being a parent doesn’t necessarily mean one has to
master the act of making the right decision because everyone has at a point
made terrible decisions. Making decisions is quite different from the right
decision. Nathan fox, a participant in a research concerning how parenting
affects neural response, states that “different parenting styles orchestrates a
range of negative results associated with behavioral inhibition" (Fox,
564). This means that the parenting style used by parents has a big role on the
social interaction software individuals which includes decision making.
Also,
parenting style can cause social redraw which can lead to socioemotional
difficulties. A research made on social withdrawal and parenting style outlined
that “parenting of children who are withdrawn from society, mostly have parents
that have tendency to using parenting styles that are bit harsh, oversoliticitous
combined with overprotection (Zarra, 2014).
Social
pressure is a big question most teenagers experienced but never have an actual
answer to how to solve. The issue is that most people do not understand what
social pressure is and the impact it has on our society. Social pressure is a combination of different
influences that teen experience. It includes peer pressure, academic pressure
and socioeconomic pressure (Gustavo 2017). Peer pressure is probably the most
common pressure teenagers experience, but it does not mean teenager do not
experience other forms of pressure, particularly academic pressure. Social
pressure can then be defined as the influence exerted on an individual by the
society; it being friends, the community, or even social media against their
will (Gustavo 2017). It
could be a rational argument, a persuasion or even conformity.
This demand placed on teens mean they have to develop excellent decision skills
in order not to be victims of social pressure. There is no doubt that social
pressure has ruined and it’s still ruining the lives of hundreds of teenagers.
A lot of campaign has been made to eradicate this cancer in our society.
However, there are positives to social pressure. For example; healthy
competition can cause students to improve on their grades. This means that the
key is not to totally advocate against social pressure or discourage the
pressure that comes from the society but to help teenagers develop exceptional
decision skills to envisage long term effects of the decisions they make.
The most
influential people in the life of a teenager is the parents. Parents have a huge
responsibility of helping teenagers become not good but exceptional decision
makers. This means that the parenting style employed by the parents have huge
consequences in the development of teenagers into adulthood. The ability to
differentiate between what is right and what is wrong is developed at a very
early age, but this ability can be flawed when teenagers are pressured,
stressed out or are just seeking for attention and approval from peers (Melanie
2009). For instance, a 16-year-old might know that smoking is bad for their
health but might be less adept at choosing not to smoke when surrounded by
coaxing peers.
The
difference between what teenagers know and what they actually do can be
elucidated in terms of “cold and hot situations” (Fiorenzo, 2013). Cold
situations are decisions made when teens are in less stressed environment.
During these periods, teenagers are able to think critically and envisage
long–term effects of their decisions as such they make well-
reasoned and rational decisions (Fiorenzo, 2013). Decisions made during high emotional or
stressful environment can termed as “hot situations” (Fiorenzo, 2013). During
this period, the long-term effects are usually not considered, and decisions
are based on impulses and emotions rather than well- thoughtful reasons. The
challenge then is to be able to still make great decision in spite of the “hot
environment” teenagers may find themselves.
Fig. 1: The regions of the human brain. from
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In addition
to this, the frontal lobe of an individual is not fully developed until early o
mid 20s. The frontal lobe is responsible for decision making, critical thinking
and problem solving. “In the last decade, a growing body of longitudinal
neuroimaging research has demonstrated that adolescence is a period of
continual brain growth and change, challenging longstanding assumptions that
the brain was largely finished by puberty” (Amanda, 2015). This shows that as
we grow our frontal lobe also rows throughout our adolescence. This finding has
prompted interest in questioning the ability of teens to make reasonable
judgement. The frontal cortex, gray matter volumes reaches it peak at the age
of 11 in girls and 12 in boys ().
How
often do parents monitor their teen's social media?
Never
60%
Rarely
7%
Sometimes
16%
Often
12%
All the time
5%
From the image above, we see that most parent do not check on the
amount time their ward is spending on social media. This can lead child to be
victims of social pressure without parents being aware.
There is
therefore huge responsibility on the part of parents to help teenagers develop
this ability. There are basically four parenting styles that affect adolescents.
The first being
authoritarian parenting. Authoritarian parents are strict and
control most of the decisions made by adolescents (Swatz el al, 2008). The goal
is to give children limited responsibilities. This means that authoritarian
parents don not trust children to take or participate in any decision-making
process. This parenting style means children have to learn by imitating their parent’s
decision-making skills. The laws in such homes are to be obeyed at all cost. In
authoritarian home, children are not heard, and parents cannot be challenged.
Doing so could lead to immense punishment. Adolescents from authoritarian homes
might develop traits such as following rules without questioning (Amanda, 2014).
In some adolescents it may lead to low self-esteem as in the teenager might
think that they are not smart or bright enough to make important decisions.
Too much control can also lead to teenagers becoming rebellious in
the near future, developing resentment toward people in authority.
Also,
authoritative parenting is another form of parenting. In authoritative home,
the goal is to achieve assertiveness and control (Amanda, 2014). Although there
are there are rules, communication is encouraged and allowed in such homes.
Authoritative parenting as compared to authoritarian parenting, is concerned
about how the child feels. Children are not restricted, and the goal is that
the child would be able to make very good decision on his or her own.
Teenagers from such a home end up with the ability of making very
important decisions on their own at a very early age. They also tend to
navigate through life with the ability to envisage consequences that comes with
the decision made.
Finally,
there is the permissive and uninvolved parenting style. Permissive parenting is
when parents involve children when setting rules (Amanda, 2014). Children are
consulted before rules are made or enforced. Although rules are established thy
are barely enforced. Parents are not assertive but rather lenient. Uninvolved
parenting can be intentionally or unintentional. For instance, a parent in
prison, or with mental issue might be involved in the developing of their
child. Other parent decides not to involve themselves in the daily activities
of the teenage; and such treat them as adults. Uninvolved parents have little
knowledge on what goes on in the life of the child.
Parents then
have huge role of finding the parenting style that will make their child
acquire skills to make decision under pressure. My dad always says that you
failed as individual but never fail as a father. The best way to prevent being
a victim of social pressure Is to instill discipline and confidence. Most teens
fall as victims because they have no confidence in their own ability of making
rational decision. Instilling discipline and confidence is directly affected by
the parenting style employed. For instance, an authoritarian
parent might fracture the confidence of their children by always meting out
punishment when things go wrong. Confidence is built by improving on the self-esteem
of the teenager. The more self-esteem you have, the more confidence you become.
This more than words but involves, praising, encouraging, motivating and
positive experiences. It is then the duty of parents to be very much aware and
also provide the necessary support to stop the cancer of social pressure.
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